The Friend Zone

Ah the friend zone. Many men dread it, but unlike most, I found I was more smitten with the idea. The friend zone is not necessarily a terrible thing at all, although most men treat it like a prison sentence, it is quite the opposite. It is a standing with the person you like telling you “hey I respect the friendship we have way more than a potential relationship that might muck up what greatness we have.” And I found that point of view way more honorable. My being is so important to you, you plan to have me in your life for the long haul. Just wow, then I much rather be friends to. As opposed to most guys that will fuck it up from there and ruin the friendship for being friend zoned? Could have had a life long bond but you decide to throw it all away? Ridiculous. I was friends with a large group of gals in High School (read post ‘The Gal Pals (Friendships Explained’)) I was honored to have them trust me and to be that solid rock of a good example of the opposite sex was important to me. I felt a sort of responsibility to uphold honesty and explain the mind of the opposite sex when asked. It was a two way street as their insight was very much helpful as well. I started to grasp the goodness and purity of the friend zone from Jess Mercado. In high school I was a bit head over heels for her. But I never pressured her into a relationship of any sort. As I really saw the importance of simply having her in my life. I know I would be responsible enough to maintain a friendship if a relationship did not work out, but I can not hold that standard to others. Jess indirectly showed me that a life long friendship is much more desired because a deep bond can still be shared between friends! Realize the longevity of human interactions and how rare certain friendships can be and you will realize the potentials of the friend zone. Because, what's the woman’s opposite perspective of the friend zone? Typically it is something along the lines of ‘You just want to be close to me to have a chance to get in my pants?’ Doesn’t have a nice sound to it at all, it’s a lot fucked up if you ask me. So guys, don’t throw away a beautiful friendship for the sake of not being able to be in a relationship with a person. Trust me, the friendship is where it is at. I was friend zoned by my fiancé as a matter of fact. But I laid it down to her, I told her one day when she was seeking relationship advice “I do not think it is in your best interest for me to provide you relationship advice as I have become jaded by developing feelings for you” Honesty was key, she understood and a couple months after that, she sends me a deep birthday wishes text and explained to me my importance in her life and how she appreciated my honesty. Little did she know I knew from then it was a matter of time before we would eventually hook up 😂 and sure enough three months after my birthday she reached out to me and we have not skipped a day of talking to each other since ^__^. So the friend zone is not always permanent, you must first and foremost never press the issue, you must remain a patient human being, and you always, always want to be honest when they come to you. Be a respectful friend, be a better human.

So this concedes the 31 day consecutive post challenge guys! I really appreciate those of you who continue to support me. I will now be posting when I feel like it 🤷🏻‍♂️ Most likely once or twice a month. But I really hope you enjoyed this challenge with me and hope you look forward to my next post! As always, till next time!