Communication

Communication is the key in many aspects of life, and all throughout. Relationships, work, in public, and everything that comes down to having a good day or bad day may be related to how things were communicated with others and how others communicate with you. There is no excuse for lack of communication in this era of technology and resources, none.

Communication is more than words, it is the actions behind them and the underlying tones. It is a great practice to understand that how you may say things may be interpreted differently by others as some of us pick up on tones more so than others, therein lies the opposite, some may be more oblivious to tones. We must not rely on one aspect more than the other. Wind and vibration are all forms of power, by that I mean words used and how they are used are a very powerful force and tool in life. Is communication all about words and the expelling of its power? Perhaps if you talk a lot, you should listen a lot more. As the other side of communication is also the silence and attentiveness that goes with it. Talking over someone can be interpreted as a lack of interest. When, to the person doing the interrupting, it may just be enthusiasm. Some people may not be aware they talk over people, so don't take it personally. Just speak up and let them know, “Hey, can I finish before I lose my train of thought?” Try to open yourself up to being more accepting in discussions. Let the person flood you with information. It is okay to stop them to be sure you are on the same page of what they are trying to discuss with you. Just try to find a simple way of communicating it. “May I interject for just a moment.” Is a good one! A lot of the time, most people do not even want feedback, they just need someone to listen to them. When that is the case it is best to set that up by expressing that at the start of the conversation. “Hey I just need you to listen and I really would like you to lend me an ear so I can express myself, and I am not really looking for feedback, so please just lend me your time.” Some couples have this as a common blocking subject where most of the time, the man does not understand the context of the type of conversation that he is about to be a part of. Some men have the sense that ‘fixing’ or ‘helping to fix things’ is the priority. So when they hear issues or troubles, a yearning to help fix it is there.

One of my favorite aspects of communication is Tact. Knowing what to say and how to say it with people as individuals. People won’t always remember what you say to them, but they remember how you make them feel. There is always a more pleasant way to talk about negative things or getting your opinion across. It takes tact to bring up negative traits about a person and make them understand your point of view. If you upset someone with what you say and/or how you say it, they are most likely no longer listening to you. They are feeling what you said that pissed them off. You don’t need to lie about how you feel. If you can’t think of a way to say it with tact, then it is best not to say it at that moment and that's where Time and Place come in. Understanding who does not have tact in your life will also keep you from getting frustrated with them. Understand who those people are and take their level of tact, or lack of tact, into consideration.